Valentine's Day came and went like it always does. But, this year was different for me. This year I chose to love MYSELF!
For most of my life, I lacked self-love. I had nothing but love, gratitude, compassion, and appreciation for the people around me, but I couldn't seem to find any for myself.
This lack of self-love manifested itself in all sorts of ways -- toxic friendships, maladaptive behaviors, eating disorders.
In my 30s, however, it played out in the most toxic romantic relationship imaginable.
A friend continued to tell me this important message:
Yet, I couldn't manage to wrap my head around it for a long time.
I couldn't see the principle I teach my clients every day -- the law of attraction -- at work in front of me. We don't attract what we want -- we attract what we feel and what we think about.
If we aren't loving ourselves, we will find a way to surround ourselves with people who don't love us, either.
As my final toxic relationship came tumbling to the ground and I felt as though I was left with little more than a shattered heart, the lyrics hit me hard:
With my lack of self-love, I found someone who managed to show no love. Not only towards me, but to essentially everyone else, as well.
But, if you find yourself in the "lying on the cold, hard ground" phase, don't fret...
I spent the past two Valentine's Days "in a relationship" crying my eyes out. I found out the hard way that what Robin Williams said is true.
I turned inward this past year. I discovered how to love and appreciate myself.
I'm still a work in progress -- self-love isn't always my default option after so many years of the opposite. But, the best gift I could have ever given to myself was the gift of self-love.
My own self-love is also the best gift I could have given to everyone else around me. It's made me a better person.
This year I happily celebrated Valentine's Day. With myself. With my two kids. With my Galentine's -- the best tribe girls I could have ever imagined or asked for!
You can't make these smiles or these laughs up! They're heartfelt and they're real!
So if Valentine's Day hit you hard -- and even if you celebrated it joyfully -- I hope you took some time to celebrate yourself.
And, throughout the year, I hope you practice self-love.
Develop a relationship with the most amazing person out there -- YOU. Trust me, you deserve it. 💖🌷💖
Here's To Our Success,